Today I wanted to switch up my post a bit…

I would like to talk about a subject that I really believe in! Gratitude and Happiness… and the power it has brought into my life… How I am using it as I go through this amazing week in Toronto at the Miss Teenage Canada competition.


Have you ever heard that the people and situations in our lives mirror back what we project out?

You can probably remember plenty of times when this seemed to be so. When girls are rude or catty – I have learned to look at myself and ask the question, “How am I acting? What am I doing?” So far, the girls have been amazing! I’m finding new friends and enjoying my time immensely.

Has the following ever happened to you? You awoke one morning in a grumpy mood, your hair wasn’t working, your makeup was all wrong.. you were just not doing well – and then your day proceeded to encounter one grumpy person after another. Or how about this one, you felt overwhelmed with problems – and seemed to attract dozens more problems, both minor and major.

Try this little experiment for starters: This type of “instant attraction” can be unsettling to say the least! However, just as it can work in a negative fashion, you can also learn how to turn this mirror effect to your advantage through the practice of gratitude.

Gratitude changes everything

When you wake up in the morning, spend a few minutes reciting an affirmation like this: “I am so grateful for the kind and generous people in my life! Everyone is so supportive and nurturing and I feel blessed to be surrounded by so many great people.”

Really allow yourself to get into the feelings of gratitude for the great people in your life. Stay with these feelings for several minutes, letting them soak into your mind and heart. I start my morning off with prayer. And it really sets my day off properly when I remember to do this!


Then, as you go about your daily routine, imagine flowing a strong feeling of love and gratitude toward everyone you encounter. I was recently taught to send “Love and Light” to everyone and every situation around me. It really works!


You can do this with both people you know and strangers. Find something appreciative to say to the people you know. You might compliment your friends on their amazing listening skills, or tell your friend you enjoy her sense of humor. Make it a genuine compliment without expecting anything in return.

As you focus on this little experiment, you may be surprised to notice that other people act more kindly toward you also. You might receive spontaneous compliments, offers of assistance when you need it most, or any number of other pleasant surprises.

Here’s another experiment:

Do your best to find something positive about every situation and experience you have during the course of a day. This might be challenging if you are used to looking at the negative side of most situations, but keep working at it until you can think of at least one blessing in every situation.

I often say to myself, “Shelby, SWITCH” – and I instantly switch my way of thinking.

Don’t try to fake it! If your car blows a tire on the freeway, you can’t mutter through gritted teeth, “I’m really grateful for this” over and over and expect good things to come from it. You’re really NOT grateful at that moment (few of us would be).

Instead, find an aspect of the situation that you really CAN be grateful about. For example, you might decide to feel grateful that your blown tire didn’t cause a serious accident. You might feel grateful that you happened to be in the slow travel lane instead of the fast lane when the tire failed.

Whatever angle you choose to focus on, be sure your feelings of gratitude are genuine – and watch how that quality is reflected back into your life in a myriad of ways.

I am truly grateful and appreciate all the wonderful people I am meeting at Miss Teenage Canada. So much work goes into this event and I know I will remember it for the rest of my life!



Shelby Strongest light


Written by: Shelby

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